I wanted to thank each and everyone of you for your comments and kind e-mails. I did need that reminder that I am not responsible for another's actions. As all parents know it is hard at times to not blame yourself for your child's mistakes. At least I am not blind to what she does. I do not deny it. I do not cover up what she does. I was watching Dr phil yesterday and I was appalled at this mother that was denying her son'e confession that her molested her 4 year old daughter and that it was not just a one time thing. i could not watch the show to the end, so I do not know if Dr. Phil thought that the boy(man) should come back home after his treatment. Instead of being arrested he was placed in a treatment program. Yes, he is your son love him. That is your daughter, love her too and do not bring him back. Did anyone else see the show? Do they know what happened?
Sorry, I didn't see the show. rich
ReplyDeleteI didn't see the show...sorry! You know , we tend to think we have problems until we hear someone else's, huh?
ReplyDeleteI feel so sorry for your daughter. It is so hard being in love when you are young...and when you throw in a baby it really gets sticky. I hope everything works out for the best.
You are so sweet to shampoo the carpet, and move all the weapons,etc., and try to make the best of the situation....I hope they appreciate you for the wonderful person you are.
hugs,
Carlene
You're welcome! (Sorry, I don't usually watch Dr. Phil--he's on during my "writing time"). Hope it all works out between the three generations of bull headed women!
ReplyDeleteOne of the best things about journaling on-line is to see how many of us share the same feelings and reactions. I am happy to see how many people came riding to your defense when you wrote about your guilt over how you raised your daughter. You are right, as parents we find it only too easy to blame ourselves. After all, how can this perfect individual whom we love to pieces possibly have any faults? It is so much harder to let them go and grow. You are doing a fabulous job. Welcoming your daughter back with no judgment, making the home safe for her, and letting her make her own choices. Brava to you!!
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