Wednesday, April 27, 2005

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The last couple of days have been very frustrating parent wise. Yesterday Pat and I went on a field trip with Brook's class as chaperones. We went to the IMAX and watched Sharks then toured  the Aquarium. Everything started out pretty good and then a stranger came and possessed our dear sweet Brook. When asked what was causing her to act the way she was she responded that it was because we were ignoring her. Later on she gives me big time attitude and lip at TaeKwonDo and I spanked her.
Now today she gets taken to principal's office for the second time this week. She decided that it was okay to put glue on a little boy's water bottle. He did not know and drank it and got sick. Her excuse because I am mean. Me. She does not know how mean I can be if I allow myself. For endangering someone else she got another spanking. She is grounded and will not be spending the night with her friend on Friday. She has to buy the little boy another water bottle and write a letter of apology.
I know there are many of you that do not believe in spanking. I do believe in it. I do not use it as a regular means of punishment. I do not leave bruises or welts. I do not use a belt. I do not spank when I am angry. Yes, I have read all the studies on the pros and cons of it.
I am fairly certain of why she is acting out and there is nothing that I can do to change the reason. I am hopeful that a unified front will cause this stage to pass faster.

13 comments:

  1. Good luck!  I feel for ya!  JAE

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  2. I am sorry, I wish I had some advice, but I do know that, you must be firm in your resolve, don't whimp-out, no wories here, I am all for spanking! Done in the right attitude, I support any parent who deems it necessary to spank a child
     Julie~
    http://journals.aol.com/joolsinwa/randommusingsofmymind

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  3. Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.  I hope things smooth out soon.  Punishment is always a hard thing to decide about.  It does depend a lot on the temperament of the child.  Spanking could work for one child and not for another.  I agree that she needs to know the seriousness of the glue in the water bottle incident.  

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  4. You know,Honey,she may not even know what she's mad about.  I know that when I was little I did a lot of things because I was just mad but I couldn't figure it out.  When I was a little older then Brook I became depressed and was convinced the world would be a better place without me but I didn't know I was depressed.  Sometimes kids get knonked off balence by the littlest,tiniest things.  I know what she's doing is wrong but she may need a litttle time to figure out what's making her upset.  -Dawn-

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  5. I believe you gave the right punishment. Yes, I believe in spanking too, when it is done right, and by reading your entry I know you are a responsible parent. This does not sound at all like Brook does it? You are soooooooo right about a "unified front"...stay on top of it Celeste!
    Carlene

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  6. Hi, Celeste.  OK, for what it's worth, count me in with the people who don't believe in spanking, but that is not my call, I know.  Celeste, if she is suddenly a different person from the Brook you knew, there may be all sorts of things going on, hormones being just one thought.  How old is she?  As someone else said, there may have been something you don't know about that knocked her off kilter.  That doesn't excuse her behavior of course.  Grounding and removing of privileges are excellent consequences, as are rewards for good behavior if she has earned them.  Sounds like she entering the realm that all kids do, namely that of separating from parents and grandparents - good luck!!

    Vicky
    http://www.livejournal.com/users/vxv789/

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  7. I think it's great that you see the importance of taking the responsibility to discipline your child.  Sometimes it gets lost that a major reason for discipline is love for the child.  Sorry you two are going through this right now, but handled early, hopefully, this behavioral pattern will change.
    Sam

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  8. I think it must be partly her age.  Young girls do like to test the bounderies they have. She knows she is much loved and this will sort itself out.  :-)  Sandra xxx  

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  9. The bible states spare the rod and spoil the child.  I do believe in spanking.  But in way that is not physically harmful to the child.  And yes spanking can be done in that manner.  

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  10. wow, she's really testing her limits isn't she?  I agree that you have to nip this in the bud...a spank, punishment...everything you are doing....zero tolerence for the BS!  

    ~ JerseyGirl

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  11. Yep I spank if need be also...That is what is wrong with some of the kids today...they are not made to realize what hurting someone feels like....
    Donna In TEXAS

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  12. hestiahomeschoolMay 3, 2005 at 6:23 PM

    The bible states spare the rod and spoil the child.

    Actually, this is not in the Bible. It was from a play.

    Nonetheless, I have warmed Tabitha's butt more than once. She needs it occasionally to let her know who is the boss. Mandy never needed it. Shelby cries if you look at her harshly. It depends on the kid.  I think you are a wonderful grandma. I am sorry that this is going on for Brooke. She is acting out for a reason...

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  13. I agree with your parenting skills. I believe in spanking. I am a single mom and praying in the future for a soul mate that believes in it too. Keep up the continued tough love. God wants us to obey and even if spanking is controversial , you are doing the right thing.

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