Saturday, February 11, 2006

My life and the life of those I love will soon change for the worse. My daughter will be moving as soon as she can and taking Brook so she can raise her in the way she wants to without my interference. I prediciate that Brook's grades will drop as school will be the only place she will be able to move without having her mother's hard hand on her. She informed Brook that she will put her in juvie hall if she does not do what she wants her to do. According to her I am Brook's problem. I am the reason Brook is lieing to her. Funny thing is, Brook did not lie to me before this. Funny thing is, when Brook got into trouble she would tell me about it not try to hide it before this. Funny thing is, Brook NEVER had a low grade before this.

She told Brook that she would not be seeing me after they moved. She told me that yes she would send her away where they send unruly children and I would not get her because I am without a job and not married. Yes that is right, Pat and I are not legally married. Since GA changed their law again, our comman law marriage is no longer recongized. I have no legal rights to keep Brook. Candy thinks tof Brook as nothing more than property. She said I had her I can do what I want, she is mine. Where is the love? So what do I do? Lock her out of the house right now? Get charged with kidnapping if I do? Guess what, law says I have to give her a 30 day notice before kicking her out.

My heart is breaking. All this because I stopped her from punishing Brook even more over the same thing that she had already punished her for 3 times. And today. Because I stepped in again and said that Brook did not need to go out because she has not been on her meds for 24 hours yet. She has strep throat. Turns out that she had told Brook that she wanted her dressed and ready to go because she was taking her out to eat and wanted to talk to her about her behavior. When I heard that I said to her so you have to remove her from here when she is sick just to talk to her without me around? That was when all hell broke loose and she let me have it. I should have realize a long time ago that my daughter would always hate me. I should have made sure that I had permament custody of Brook before Candy got out of prision. No I screwed up and now Brook will pay for it. Pray for us send good karma what ever you do. If I am not posting for a while you know why.

21 comments:

  1. So sorry this is happening   will keep you in my prayers.

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  2. awwwwwwwwww {{{{{{{{{{{CELESTE}}}}}}}}}} I know your heart is breaking. How sad how sorry for Brooke. Maybe yur daughter wil cool down I pray. I pray you get thigns settled. I know its hard andsad. Yes maybe you should have but dont focuse on that just work on making things better. IF you can. Tell Brooke you love her and you wnat to do more but the law only lets you do so much. so enver forget that and maybe things will calm down. I m sorry I really have no wiser  or comforting words for you. hugs and love nad yes prayers. Father give peace and understanding and love AMEN

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  3. Celeste what a sad state of affairs, I wish there was something I could do to help, Surely as Brook's Grandmother you must have some rights !  Why would your daughter hate you so much to deprive you of seeing Brook... Can't see why not legally being married should make any difference..Ally

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  4. It sounds like you should have attempted to get guardianship before now, but hindsight is always 20/20. I am a former children's protective services worker, although in a different state. I can tell you that here, it would not matter in the least if you lived alone or with a long term partner or were married. A stable, loving home is the key. Does your daughter have a place for Brook? A plan? Is she set up in school? Can she support her? If not, you can try calling CPS and see if they will give you temporary custody, at least, or prevent your daughter from removing her from your home at this time. Good luck!

    xoxo

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  5. This is sad and I send you and Brook my best. I will also hope and pray that your daughter cools down and comes to any senses that she has!
    Tess

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  6. Oh Celeste,  I think you should go for guardianship of Brook, you are the only stable home that she knows and she obviously needs you.  I don`t see why you have to be married to provide a safe, happy home for your much loved Granddaughter.  Does your daughter have the money to provide for her, or for that matter a home to offer her? There must be something you can try, do you have Social services in America?  If so you should contact them and see what they say.  

    Hugs

    Sandra xxxx

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  7. Just hang in there Celeste, things are not always what they seem.

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  8. Prayers pouring out for you and Brook.  You know she may just be threating, if she didn't and don't and hasn't stepped up to the plate to be the mother she should be, personally I don't see her wanting to .  It's nice to have something to hang over someones head to get what you want.  Or it twist their wrong doings around.  She really should not have taken Brook out while she was sick.  And if she really loved her she would not be announcing things she may not even follow through with.  Boy, you are up against a pro.  My biggest fear has always been if one of my children treated me that way.  I still have two left to raise.  Brook will be grown soon and able to make her own mind up.  Sounds as if the two of you have a great bond.  Maybe your daughter should be talking to teachers instead of casting blame.  Good luck, TerryAnn.

           

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  9. This is horrible!  Poor Brook!  caught up in her mother's plan to inflict pain and prove some point...I hope you can figure out something that can be done to protect her...JAE

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  10. {{{Celeste,}}} Very sad for you and your Granddaughter. Do what you can for Brook, even if its only a temperary custody. Your right she, needs you and a stable home. So sorry your daughter is using Brook as a pawn, to get back at you.               ~Deborah

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  11. Celeste
    I will keep you and Brook in my prayers.  I am going through tribulations with my step son and will be losing Trenton back to him at the end of this month.  I say this just to let you know I am feeling some of the same emotions about losing the custody of my Grandson.  I hope Candy comes to realize that you are the best thing that has happened in Brook's life, but youthfull jealousy will most likely prevail.  Just know that we are care about what you are having to deal with and we are in your corner.
    Sam

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  12. Celeste, you are all in my prayers.  I seriously recommend calling Children's Services or an attorney and taking action.  Don't let your daughter intimidate you about your common law marriage.  The stability and love in your home is far more important, and grandparents do have rights.

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  13. Oh, Celeste.
    I am so sorry . I wish I could help you in some way...I remember how hard you worked so that your daughter would have a nice wedding....It sounds like your daughter is jelouse of the good relationship that you have with Brook and is going about it all wrong trying to establish some kind of one with her. I think your daughter is using a little emotional black mail...ie; using the love you have for Brook as a weapon to get what she wants. Unfortunately. alot of grandparents go through this. I would try anything to not let her leave with Brook, ( even swallowing hard and apologising for any wrong SHE may think you did...anythng to buy a little time for Brook's safety)and if she insisted I would call protective services and try to get temporary custody or at least have them monitor her.
    Thank you Celeste for all your prayers for me.God bless you sweetheart and I will pray for your family.

    love,
    Carlene

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  14. have you talk to CPs child protective services....why did you not seek custody...Sounds like your daughter is like my sister...they dont care or give a shit about the kids they are like pawns..
    Donna In TEXAS

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  15. Celeste,

    While I live in another state, I have to agree with "Suzypr" who left you a note on this page. Contact CPS. Child abuse is credible and that is what your daughter is doing to Brooke. Taking a child with documented strep throat out in public is not wise. Continued threats of placing her in a "place for bad children" is emotional abuse. Check with her teachers and see when her grades started to slip. Bet they coincide with her mother's antics. Get the teachers involved! And the Dr. And the school psychologist. The may noit be able to tell you the results,but the effort is made. Above all, CREATE A PAPER TRAIL and STICK WITH IT!

    Prayers from all your friends.

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  16. She didnt mind you careing for Brook when she needed you!
    I pray it all works out. Its will be hardest on brook to have big changes all at once
    Terrie

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  17. Dear Celeste....my heart is breaking for you sweetie....I cannot understand why your daughter wants to hurt Brook....to take revenge on you...that is cruel...abusive...keep fighting and looking for ways to keep Brook safe...and our prayers will be will you hourly until this is settled....Hugs ...Ora

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  18. I think you do have some legal rights to visitation, and I think that the courts will not put her in juvenile without seeing if a relative can care for her first....

    I will pray for you...a lot...

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  19. This is awful, BUT, seems like the "law" has you in a corner. rich

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  20. I am so sorry to read this, I really do not know what to say, but surely you have some rights, you looked after Brook for a long while.  I cannot understand why your daughter is behaving like this and I can understand why it is breaking your heart.  Wish I could give better advice but I know nothing about U.S. law
    http://journals.aol.co.uk/jeanno43/JeannettesJottings/

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  21. Sorry to hear about this. I hope you and your daughter can compromise and she'll let you be a part of Brook's life. We all know how much you love her. Praying that something good will happen in light og this situation.

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