To be happy, drop the words “if only” and substitute
instead the words “next time”
- Stanley Blanton, M.D.
I thought these were wise words. I am always hearing if only so and so had done this or if only I had done that.
My sister in law is a good example. She blames everyone for all her troubles. "if only" you would give me that or "if only" you had done that for me, I would not be like this. It is all your fault. 53 years old and still blames here mama for the choices that she makes. No one if forcing her to put the drugs in her mouth. No one if forcing her to drink and whore around. Her mother has given her more than she should have. She has given her numberous cars, money, the food out of her mouth. She has bailed her out of jail I don't know how many times. She puts her life in jeporady by giving to this female. Yes my MIL is an enabler. But my SIL is the one that made her choices on how she was going to live. How she can say that no one has ever helped her .... We paid her bills when she was in an accident not of her making at the tune of $2000. We thought she was making a go of it for the first time. Really putting forth an effort. NOT. Turns out she was hocking stolen goods for someone. But of course, according to her we have never helped her. Or anyone else for that matter. Me I wash my hands of her.